Like any other thing, our relationships need time to time grooming too. No matter how much in love you think you are but relations cannot remain alive just on “love,” you need other things too. Like a plant cannot stay alive just on water, even though it is one of the essential requirement, but the plant still needs sunlight, fertilizers, better soil, only then it can grow on its best. Relationships are one of the most fundamental human requirements and needs, but sometimes it happens that although you two are everything you need but still cannot keep it going for a long time? Here are some things you might be doing wrong.
Below listed things will help you in fixing all the matters.
Appreciate each other
We all have good and bad days in our lives. When bad days are striking hard, you need someone to help you through it. If your partner has a bad time in office, tell them that they are going to make out of this, their work is fine, etc.
Appreciate their little qualities. Researchers have shown that one of the most fundamental ways to keep your relationship alive is through appreciation. See, if you appreciate a little boy for his homework, he will try to do even better next time. Similarly, when you appreciate your partner’s qualities more often they will fall even more in love with you.
Celebrate more often
Routine is boring. Have you ever noticed that couples are happier at the start of the relationship as compared to years later? That is because in the beginning everything is fresh and new and you are doing something different every day. Then slowly, you get adaptive to the routine and lose the spark of relationship. Try to keep this spark alive.
Celebrate little occasions like birthdays, anniversaries, promotions, valentine’s day, etc. Never miss the chance to show them how important they are to you. Give them surprises. You do not have to make big deal out of everything; small actions are loud enough too. Here are some valentine’s day ideas for making your day even more special:
- Use gold balloons
- Freeze flowers in ice cubes
- Printable fortune cookies
- Heart shape balloon
- Write a love letter
Be grateful for what you have
Always be grateful for having each other. Stop comparing yourself to other people. Try to see the positive things you have in your life. Even if you have any issues with each other, sit down and talk about it, instead of complaining about it all the time. If you see your partner is trying to put an effort to do something for you appreciate them. Even if they make you dinner, tell them you love the taste or “thank you for doing so much for me” this practice will increase the satisfaction level in the relationship.
Set up some boundaries
See every relationship has its own set of rules, that are defined by the people involved in it. It’s not like you sit down and make up the rules, you do the general observation about their likes and dislikes. Don’t try to stanch their personal space. If they do not like something, don’t push them into it. You cannot change an introvert person into an extrovert. You cannot change a vegetarian onto a non-vegetarian. Try to accept them for who they are. Respect each other’s privacy. If you are in a relationship, that doesn’t mean you have got to share everything from passwords to your journals. Healthy relationships need personal space.
